Fran Beau Life

Being a mom of four amazing kiddos and juggling running my business is something I work at every moment of every day. It starts the night before with lists for the next day about what things absolutely have to get done and what things can be an added bonus if they are accomplished. I am always thinking of what the day needs from me, from morning lunches to prepping dinner in the crockpot to making sure that emails are answered, classes are taught, and nurture is never forgotten. Some days run smooth, some days are a hot mess, and I question if I am even doing a good job anymore.

What I have learned, as I am getting older, is that the real success of a day comes from the authenticity of living it. I try to focus my tired energy on the things that I am grateful for. The things that I dreamt of 15 to 20 years ago. Running a business, being an educator, being able to continue creating, being a mommy, having a dog, and maintaining a household. All exhausting things, but all part of my wildest dreams and biggest blessings.

I think being tired is real. I think forgetting to sign up for the baked good sale is okay. I think the house having two loads of laundry in every room that need to be put away is actually fine. I remember my grandfather used to say to me, do not worry about the laundry, spend time with the kids instead. The laundry will always be there, but time with them may not. Boy, was he right.

I want to share with all the moms I know that are juggling every doctor’s appointment, haircut, work call, ELA project, payroll deadline, and a sink full of dishes, that you are not alone and that you inspire me. I embrace day three of dry shampoo, a few dinners on the go, and a messy playroom of toys just so I can say that I was present with my family, my job, and most importantly, myself.

When you can, take that gift card someone gave you a few years ago and get a massage. Everything can wait, but you cannot. Everyone needs you, but you need you. Just taking a few hours a week to go for a walk, go to the store, get a massage, or even have a quiet meal alone can make the biggest difference. One that will allow you to be more present, authentic, and real.

You are killing it, mamas. No need for perfection, just being you is enough.

Just BE.